Subtle Elements

I'm watching several relationships deteriorate over the course of a couple months and have a few things to note. Actually, one thing. You should never have to explain it in order to justify a behavior. If someone swears at you loudly, brings up history, or berates you, there shouldn't be a second standard that excuses the moment. To say the situation has to be clarified to include extenuating circumstances in order to be understood is weak. Weak. If it was your behavior that was this consistently poor, would you excuse yourself under the same reasoning? It should never be a catalytic and reactionary relationship.

The compassionate side of me says every relationship cannot be catalogued nor categorized by any basis, and it's an impossibility to explain to the outside from within. But that’s an exception true with all things. I could never explain to you how the Dececpticons link up to form Devastator, because you're not in on it. You could never explain to me why your sorority is super-mega different from the other ones because I’m ambivalent. It's like the distinction between animation and anime, between burping and belching - between rape and what Kobe does. There always exists a level of discernability for those that see it.

[ed. note - I had about six more paragraphs about people who think boring stories are worth telling, but I'll save you the irony]

So the fact that your relationship doesn't make sense to me because I'm not there doesn't float. We've all been there; you're the only one still entrenched. You can think that there is an element none of us see, but nobody's so unsympathetic. It's just that the rest of us have hindsight flying for us.

Reminders for class: I don't care about the difference between Kate Spade and Hecht's, so please don't bother telling me.